Remembering What Confidence Really Means
When I was younger, I believed confidence was something you earned — something you had to build, prove, or perform.
I thought if I worked harder, looked better, achieved more, or smiled wider, it would finally feel natural.
But the truth is, I was confusing visibility with value.
For more than a decade, I worked in front of cameras — first as a model, later as a creative consultant.
It was a fascinating world, full of light and expression, but it also showed me how easily we lose the quiet connection to who we really are.
Even surrounded by beauty, I met countless people — myself included — who felt unseen.
That’s what led me to psychology.
I wanted to understand why so many of us chase confidence, yet feel further from it the harder we try.
At the University of Copenhagen, and later at Penn under Dr. Martin Seligman, and Yale under Dr. Laurie Santos, I studied the science of well-being and positive emotion — what helps humans flourish.
And what I discovered is this:
True confidence isn’t the absence of doubt. It’s the presence of self-trust.
It’s not about becoming more — it’s about remembering who you already are.
Today, I help people reconnect with that truth through True Self Love — my small practice here in Copenhagen and online.
This work is for anyone who’s tired of performing strength, and ready to live it instead.
We talk about compassion, identity, resilience, and the gentle art of showing up authentically — even when you’re uncertain.
It’s not therapy that promises instant change. It’s an invitation to rebuild the quiet relationship with yourself that everything else grows from.
When I started this journey, I didn’t know it would lead here — to a space where science and soul could finally meet.
But this is where I want to spend the rest of my career:
helping people find peace not in perfection, but in presence.
Because the most powerful version of you is not the one who’s finally fixed —
it’s the one who finally feels like home.
With warmth,
Alexis
